Whether you're Harry or Sally, the human mind is a complex place. This blog is about deciphering how men and women feel, act and think.

Are We Brave?

What is being brave? I think that’s why I started this blog because I wanted to find out through the success and failures of others what it means to have bravery and ultimately to be happy. I’ve gone to counseling, talked to peers, family and professors, trying to hear different perspectives but at the end of the day I try to think, what exactly is my philosophy? Am I doing the right thing or the brave thing? Am I afraid of failure so much that I want to avoid a challenge? Do I deserve to be where I am right now? What will happen when I step into the real world? 

It’s my anxiety talking, not me. The future is always changing so that’s why I get nervous about what’s happening with my life. Some people are calm about it and some are frantic. What am I? What should I be? Sometimes to pursue our dreams, we have to stumble, trip and scrape our knees countless times but I hope in the end all this suffering is worth it. I hope that we all get to the place in our lives where we can take a big sigh of relief and say, “Yes, I made it.”

I hope you have the courage to pursue someone who is worth pursuing, and not someone who is convenient. Convenience is impatience disguised as your desires, you are worth more than what time has told you, you are worthy of finding someone who will wait for you; don’t settle for what is easy, settle for what is good.
- T.B. LaBerge // Go Now  (via awelltraveledwoman)

Clearly define the person you want to be. — Who exactly do you want to be? What kind of person do you want to be? What are your personal ideals? Whom do you admire? What are their special traits that you would make your own?

It’s time to stop being vague. If you wish to be an extraordinary person, if you wish to be wise, then you should explicitly identify the kind of person you aspire to become. If you have a daybook, write down who you’re trying to be, so that you can refer to this self-definition. Precisely describe the demeanor you want to adopt so that you may preserve it when you are by yourself or with other people.

- Epictetus, The Art of Living  (via modernhepburn)

So Far Away

I’ve been considering studying abroad for the past week. I was accepted into the Madrid program and was extremely excited but suddenly I felt this large dark cloud of fear over me. I would be so far from home for three months, not knowing anyone, probably being the only or one of the few Black persons on the trip and what would I eat? The Spanish are not big on vegetarianism or veganism and love their Manchego cheese. Unfortunately, I have a lactose intolerance and I don’t like eating a lot of meat. Holy shit. What do I do?

I think it’s time to leave home for a while. It’s not as if I can never come back. I need to experience being truly independent. I know I can take care of myself physically but I’m worried about my mental health. What if I relapse into my bad anxiety again? Trust. I need to learn how to trust myself, others, and the Universe. I need to be able to let go and drift into the unknown without worrying that something bad will always happen.

I think I’ll end up going to Madrid. It sounds like an amazing experience. Eating paella, drinking Spanish wine, visiting tapas bars, watching Real Madrid and FC Barcelona on TV and learning Spanish with my host family. I can do it. I just need to trust that everything will be okay. 


25. The Warmth Of The Sun

(B. Wilson/M. Love)


A summer throwback :)